Showing posts with label Transgender Day of Remembrance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Transgender Day of Remembrance. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Candlelight Vigil for Transgender Day of Remembrance

Hello everyone,

Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance.

This is a day to remember and honor those who have lost their lives due to transphobic violence, hate, and discrimination. The media sensationalizes and disrespects transgender hate crime victims after they have been killed, by identifying them with the wrong name and pronouns and writing about them as if they were sexually confused and mentally ill. More often than not, though, transphobic hate crimes are largely ignored.

Please take a moment to look over this list from the TDoR website. This is the list of names of people who are being remembered this year on November 20th. Please note that the list is incomplete and constantly being updated.


I've been trying to figure out exactly what I want to say about today's post without making it too personal, but I don't think this post can not be personal.

I have transgender friends whom I love very much, and I'm glad none of them are on the list of names being memorialized today. I don't know what I would do if I lost someone close to me. I can't even begin to imagine something like that, and I don't want to.

As much as I am happy that my friends are safe, I am also extremely grateful that nothing bad has happened to me because of my gender identity.

When I was seventeen, I came out to my mother as transgender. Up until that point, I had simply been a girl, a daughter, a sister... but I struggled internally with my gender identity. I was extremely unhappy; I hated myself but I didn't know why.

At eighteen, I started living my life as the boy I've always been inside. It's been a rough journey, but I've made it through so far.

I've been going back and forth on whether or not I want to share these intimate details of my life, and I've decided that I shouldn't be afraid to. I'm proud of who I am.

It shouldn't make a difference in how others see me, but I know it does. People like me die simply because we are not understood. There is ignorance in the world that easily becomes hatred and violence.

It has to stop.

Today I'm sharing some images on my nails that mean a lot to me.





On my thumb is the transgender symbol in the form of a heart.



On my index and middle fingers is the Transgender Pride Flag, to represent the openness with which transgender people should be able to live their lives.


On my ring finger is a candle flame, in memory of lives lost.


Thank you all for reading this post, and for supporting me in my blogging journey thus far. I truly, deeply, appreciate the encouragement I have received from this wonderful community, and I hope to keep doing this for a long time.

-Fitzy

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Transgender Day of Remembrance

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Hello everyone,

Today's post will be on a very serious note.

November 20th is Transgender Day of Remembrance, a day to remember and honor those who have lost their lives due to transphobic violence, hate, and discrimination. This is an issue that is very close to my heart, and I figured since I have seen so many people shed light on various causes in their own blogs, why not share something that is important to me?

The media sensationalizes and disrespects transgender hate crime victims after they have been killed, by identifying them with the wrong name and pronouns and writing about them as if they were sexually confused and mentally ill. More often than not, though, transphobic hate crimes are largely ignored.

I have a few things to share from the Transgender Day of Remembrance website.

"The Transgender Day of Remembrance serves several purposes. 

It raises public awareness of hate crimes against transgender people, an action that current media doesn’t perform. 

Day of Remembrance publicly mourns and honors the lives of our brothers and sisters who might otherwise be forgotten. Through the vigil, we express love and respect for our people in the face of national indifference and hatred. 

Day of Remembrance reminds non-transgender people that we are their sons, daughters, parents, friends and lovers. Day of Remembrance gives our allies a chance to step forward with us and stand in vigil, memorializing those of us who’ve died by anti-transgender violence."

My friends at the university I attend have set aside today to observe TDoR, but on the 20th I will be doing something special on my blog. If you would like to join me, please let me know either in the comments, or by e-mail/twitter/facebook/whatever you like, and I can set up an inlinkz widget and organize a TDoR post.

Please take a moment to look over this list from the TDoR website. This is the list of names of people who are being remembered this year on November 20th. Please note that the list is incomplete and constantly being updated.


Thank you for reading.

Fitzy